Icantrain I find it amusing as to how many different people saw something different in this movie. Perhaps I'm a sucker for a romantic comedy, especially between two men, but this movie isn't a "gay" movie. It is all about relationships. Yes, dysfunctional ones. Are there any other kind? I found the movie to be very believable and actually know people who could be these characters. The dialogue is very witty and I actually found myself laughing out loud on occasion and also well up with a tear as well. It is difficult for a movie to make someone both laugh and cry. I found myself not just identifying with these characters, but rooting for them. The movie shows the changing culture in the gay community as well, as we move from one night stands to buying matching night stands for the bedroom that we share with the one we love. I think the real story of this movie is that none of us know what we're really looking for until we actually find it. Watch this movie. If you're gay, it's a must see and if you're straight, it's a great chick flick. I loved it!!
ProGuy7360 Then I thought about this movie. Here's what I liked: two men can be openly gay and live perfectly normal and happy lives without being gay bashed like in every other movie ever made about gay men (the only time one gets beaten up, well sort of, is Tom in the bathroom after the AA meeting); gay men don't have to flame or act like women, because they aren't, they are men and happen to like other men; gay men live lives not so different than straight people, with ups and downs, romantically and otherwise; and the movie didn't have the perfectly clichéd ending most movies have in this genre, that love wins out. Sure, in the end they settled their differences, they talked about their feelings and broke down boundaries. They kissed in the end, they danced, and they got together, but they weren't what either wanted, they were what they needed. They didn't get along because they didn't want to, then they got along because they wanted to, in spite of their differences, not in ignorance, but because they acknowledged their own and each others faults to find each other. Ninety-nine percent of people, gay or straight, go out looking for a Prince Charming or Damsel in Distress, which they will never find. Someone once said to me "people should be patient, because when the right person comes along, they'll fall right in your lap." That's kind of what happened here, that both Tom and Eli had preconceived notions about love and their perfect match, and they discovered it didn't matter what they wanted before, because they found maybe what they needed, and discovered the perfect person is a myth, because no one is perfect, and we'll never find what we dream of. We find what we need, and we fall into each others laps. And the filmmakers never said it would work out, but if it did it would be great, if not we know that whatever happens, things would turn out okay. All this, and I haven't even brought up the psychological issues of the characters, particularly Tom, that though not thoroughly explored, are realistic and thought provoking. And what a way to think, that maybe we can be happy if we're not married to our dream man/woman, in the house with the white picket fence, but perfectly happy with friends, family, and the things in life that can be just as important as love.More importantly, I found that this movie was really realistic in portraying gay men. Most movies show the flamers, just one facet of gay society. The fact is gay men and women are all around us, working regular jobs. They are normal people, just like you, and they don't have to act different or be different because they aren't different. Not in any way that's important anyway. So I raise my glass to Tom and Eli, and say accordingly I thought this movie was excellent, and I give it a rating of ten stars. Rock on! PS-- Not sure if there are any spoilers here, but thought I'd check the box anyway, just in case.
